Awareness in Flirting

It's also being aware of how we come across to others. For instance, generally speaking how do people react when you first speak to them? Are you quick to warm up, or do you take a while to open up a little?

Knowing what sort of flirt you are is the first step if you wish to improve. Who we believe we are is critical to our success but also can be a barrier at times.

I know people who attend my flirting workshops can think they are too shy to be a good flirt.

I don't actually believe there is such a thing as a shy person. You are what you label yourself and yes we can all be shy at times, but isn't it true you have been confident at times, not shy but expressive even if you have to think back a little.

You are what you label yourself, and remember, your subconscious cannot tell the difference between reality and make believe. Tell it something often enough and your sub-conscious will believe you.

If we tell ourselves we are shy often enough, if we have been telling ourselves that since our childhood then we probably believe it!

Thing is, what happens when you are with close friends or family? Usually people feel relaxed, they are more interactive and have more pronounced body language. They react instinctively and naturally and don't appear shy at all.

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Shyness is just one example where awareness can help overcome our inhibitions. Flirting awareness is much the same.

If we become aware of who we are and how we react in certain situations, we have the power to change our outcomes by changing our flirting subconscious. Change our actions, change our outcome.

Is it that easy?

Ability to Change in Flirting

If we feel shy and are acting shy, can we change ourselves right then and their? Do we have the power to completely change course?

Perhaps if we see ourselves with a friend when we aren't shy, we can ask 'what does our friend like about us?'

Awareness in flirting is the ability to recognise we aren't always poor communicators or shy or not confident. We have the ability to be any type of person we want.

In a nutshell, if you feel like you are getting nowhere, just not feeling confident, make a pact to change something right there and then.

Even if it is changing the topic of conversation to make someone else feel good, or changing the way you are moving, your body language.

Remember change your actions, change your outcomes!

Awareness in flirting is knowing you have the ability to change.