Do I tell him I like him?Ok, what does it mean when a guy and his friends asks you who you like, and you just so happen to like him? What do you do if you don't want to tell him? Katia's answer If a group of guys are asking you who you like, then chances are at least one of them likes you. The problem is it may not be the one that you have your eye on. So how do you work out who's keen without hurting anyone's feelings (or embarrassing yourself) in the process? Next time you see them try this simple 5 step process to work out who is interested in you, baring in mind that our body's non verbal leakage will always give us away: Who's avoiding eye contact with you? If he's interested shouldn't he be making eye contact not avoiding it? Not necessarily. The fact that he's using his friends to do his dirty work gives you a big clue about his personality. He's interested but he's shy, making it unlikely that he'd lock eyes with you. So, if you catch one of the guys looking at you then quickly looking away when your eyes meet reposition yourself so that you're standing next to him. Move closer. Try this with each guy, watching their reactions carefully. Reposition yourself so that you're on a 45' angle, with your shoulders barely touching. Do any of the guys begin to swallow, fidget or become red in the face as you approach? Where are their body's pointing. If they're not pointing towards you chances are it's not you they're interested in. Whisper and lean - Gently lean and whisper something to them, allowing your arm to brush against their back for a fraction longer than it needs to. It doesn't matter what you say as long as it's said softly. Does he take a step back or avoid your touch, or does he move closer to you and meet reciprocate your touch? Maintain eye contact for three seconds – Try this with each of the guys. If they're not interested you, you wont notice any changes in their behaviour. On the other hand, if he's keen on you, certain changes will begin to take place. He may lock eyes with you before looking away, a smile darting across his lips before looking back. You may notice him touching his face and lips as his lips fill with blood ( a telltale sign that he's attracted to you) By now you should have a fair idea about who's keen and who's just being friendly. If your instinct tells you it's the guy you like, go for it, you don't need to tell him you're interested…perhaps ask him if he'd like to catch up for lunch. If on other hand your instinct tells you that it's one of his friends that are keen on you and not him, and he hasn't been sending any positive signals your way, it may just be better to move on. Good luck Katia Loisel-Furey Return to FAQs for flirting and body language
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