Flexibility in Flirting



Flexibility in flirting means having the ability to change your approach when needed.

Remember when you were a little child and you wanted something?

You probably asked nicely with your best manners right? So what happened if you did not succeed? Did you give up?

Once upon a time...

Let me tell you a little story. I was babysitting for a friend of mine, and took her little 3 year old girl shopping to the supermarket.

I had her for the whole day and was asked not to buy her anything, especially little toys as she had enough already.

Well we were at the supermarket check out and little Angelina spotted a few little plastic toys (placed by evil marketers), dangling right before her very eyes. It was a little pink dolly with sparkly hair that got her attention.

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Her eyes turned from the dolly and focused on me as she was holding my hand - 'Aunty Kat' she called me, 'can I have the little dolly?'. Remembering what her mum had suggested, I explained she couldn't.

Now here is the difference - the flexibility in flirting needed that we once had as a little child to get what we want.

Well already she made up her mind that approach wouldn't work, so she stomped her feet, clenched her little fists, puffed her cheeks and in a more deliberate tone, asked 'Can I have the dolly?' once again, and once again the answer was no!

Do you think she stopped there? As the queue moved forward she must have realised she had one last chance. Then all of a sudden she turned into the sweetest angel you could imagine.

'Aunty Kitty Kat' she said looking up at me. Her little face was the sight of pure innocence, and in the nicest tone of voice asked, 'Can I have the dolly please?'

I am embarrassed to say that she actually got the little dolly and it just goes to prove you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

So what can we learn from this?

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Flexibility means we just don't have to give in when things don't go our way. It also means we can try different things instead of staying home on a Saturday night eating chips and chocolate (although I can't blame you if you eat the chocolate!).

If at any stage you don't think things are working out, change your approach. If you want to get a different result then keep changing your approach.

Flexibility in flirting is vital in learning what works best for us. Everyone has the ability to flirt well, with a certain cute look, a natural laugh and just being yourself.


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