Flirting AttitudeSo what's a great flirting attitude? Basically a positive attitude for a good flirt is having control over how others treat you. What does this mean? Now, we cannot control everything other people do, but in reality, we can often determine our outcomes by the way we come across and the way we interact with others. Lets take an example. Lisa is a 30 year old single girl, well educated, has a few close friends and can be flirty at times. She goes out from time to time with friends and has even tried other methods of meeting guys like arranged dinners and speed dating.
So here is the interesting part. Most of our attitude when it comes to flirting stems from the questions we ask ourselves. How we tend to behave, how we tend to approach and react with people, which all depends on the questions we ask in our conscious mind. So let's go back to our friend Lisa. What questions do you think she would be asking herself? She may be asking herself - 'why am I single?', or, 'why won't people be interested in me?'. Funny thing is, if you ask a question to your brain, you usually get an answer, such as 'you are not interesting', or 'you aren't attractive'. In other words, ask a negative question and you get a negative answer. So how can we use this to change our flirting attitude, to actually have a positive and confident attitude to flirting? Perhaps questions such as 'what makes me happy?' to get ourselves into a good mood. Perhaps our friend Lisa could ask herself 'what's great about me?' or 'why am I interesting?'. She then HAS to find answer. In other words, ask a positive question, get a positive answer! One final thought on flirting attitude.Try to get some feedback on how you come across from friends or even guys or girls you meet. That itself is an art we won't go into here. If you think you have a positive attitude, you may come across differently.Flirting Attitude - How to Flirt In our flirting workshops we role-play for this very reason. I tell you this because most people will say they have a positive flirting attitude but may not always come across in body language, in the way we talk and express ourselves. Its invaluable to get feedback believe me, so before you think it's a bit outrageous to ask, try it and you will not regret it. Believe me.
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