How do I get comfortable with a girl without any material to talk about?I am a guy in 10th grade, and I go to school with many attractive girls. I have a big problem with speaking with these "girls". I get very anxious. I dress very nicely, keep great hygiene, and look preppy and sharp all the time. I always get "the eye", and I know it for a fact. But still, I can't make anything happen verbally. I suck at talking, because it always feel like I am saying the wrong things, or it seems too obvious that I am trying to flirt. Every time I have attempted something with a girl, such as a "Hey" or whatever, it somehow ends up turning awkward. Because it seems like I can't keep a flow of the conversation. Bottom line, I really want to get with some girls, but It feels like I don't know what to do or say. Katia's answer Well a good starting point for guys can be to ask some questions to keep the conversation flowing. I like to recommend some tried and tested speed dating conversation starters to help get the ball rolling. The key is to ask open ended positive questions to help make a good impression, and don't forget a lot of girls like to talk about their lives, their interest etc, so it isn't always that hard to get them talking. Another thing you might want to work on is flirting with small talk. People often expect a fairly light discussion when they don't quite know you yet, so don't go to heavy to early. I hope this helps and let me know how you go. Katia Loisel-Furey Return to FAQs for flirting and body language
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