How do I know he is flirting with me?

Katia, How do I know he is flirting with me?

Katia's answer

Hi Anon,

Before he even knows that he is attracted to you his body has started sending a barrage of micro signals your way. His eyebrows will flash, his nostrils will flare, his eyes will widen, his face will open up and his pupils will dilate.

If you're observant you might catch these signals but if not there are still many more being thrown your way.

As a rule men don't have as many flirting signals as women, but the rule of 3 to 5 signals still applies.

Always look for 3 to 5 flirting signals being sent simultaneously or at least within a minute of each other.

Here is how to know that he is flirting with you:

He'llGive you the darting glance followed by another lookGive you the four second face scanMaintain eye contactUse the intimate face scanDo a double takeTry to attract your attentionBreak away from the groupTry to move closer to youTry to move his head closer to yoursTouch youWhisper and leanPut his arm around your waistLet you see him admiring you (head to toe look)Stand tall and erectStand with his thumbs in his belt and fingers pointing towards his crotch - cowpoke stanceSpread his legs and give you a crotch displayStand with his hands on his hips.Have his eyebrow slightly raised whilst you're talking

Whilst looking at you, he will

Stroke his clothes, preen or play with his tie Smooth or mess up his hair Play with his socks Button and unbutton his jacketTouch his face Touch his mouthSqueeze his glass or roll it from side to sideTry to move closerGuide his arm around you and guide it to the small of your backHe will lend you his coat or jumper

Have fun flirting

Katia Losiel-Furey

Miss Flirt

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