How to flirt with questions is very useful if you are shy or just cannot think of anything to say at that crucial moment.

Have you ever been in situation where you spot that really cute girl or guy and you just don't know what to say?

Just to avoid feeling the pain of a missed opportunity, try to remember the following steps to start a conversation.

How to flirt with questions - conversation starters

Start with questions

The interesting fact is - if you begin a conversation with a positive question, you always seem to have an upwards-spiralling conversation.

If you ask a negative question you almost always have a negative conversation - so I was told. So I thought lets put this to the test.

We introduced this into one of my flirting workshops and I was pleasantly surprised by the results. It's never a 100% rule mind you, but it was amazing how much effect that first question had on conversations we set up with pairs of guys and girls.

A positive question helped establish rapport so much more quickly and much more easily. So much so the exercise is part of every flirting workshop I do.

So what are the best questions to ask?

How to flirt with questions - try these

What do you do for fun?

What makes you happy?

What's the most embarrassing item of clothing you have ever worn?

How do you flirt? Usually followed up with - 'I don't know', or 'I don't know how to flirt'. You can then follow up with - 'How do you know a guy is interested?'

What makes you laugh?

Did you have fun on the weekend?

Don't underestimate this. I figure if you ask a positive question, it requires a positive answer. Plus the bonus is you don't have to think of anything in particular to say. That is the simple rule when learning how to flirt with questions.

It can also give you time to think of the next thing to say.

Having said that, what are the questions to avoid?

How to flirt with questions - questions to avoid

So why do you do that?

So why do you play golf?

Why do you shop?

Sounds harmless doesn't it?, but we found a lot of people take this questioning as a negative response, and this can be so easily avoided.

Other common questions to avoid are the 50/50 questions.

These are called 50/50 because they have a chance of starting a negative or a positive conversation.

How was your day?

What do you do for a living?

What brings you here tonight?

Thing is what - if they don't like their job or they have had a bad day?

How to flirt with questions is easy if you keep to the positive questions above. I am sure you can come up with a lot more that you feel comfortable with and are easy to remember when you need it most.

Try it to start a spiralling up conversation - I have faith it will and may help you to relax knowing you can just ask a question without thinking of opening lines to say. I hope you use this little known secret to best effect, wink wink.

Katia.