How to Flirt

Learning how to flirt is easy if you think about it. Since the dawn of mankind, we have been flirting openly with one another.

Have you ever watched a nature documentary looking at how animals court one another?

What do they do? They prance around, fluff their feathers, put on a show for their potential mate.

Unfortunately most in the human kingdom would rather die than perform any acts of sexuality or even flirtatious behaviour.

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I'M VERY FLIRTATIOUS BUT I HAVE A PROBLEM - THAT'S WHENEVER I'M NOT FLIRTING BOYS THINK I AM - WHAT SHOULD I DO ?

Is it just too hard for us now to learn how to flirt?, are we beyond the neanderthal approach in our sophisticated modern world we have created for ourselves or maybe is it just too silly?

It's our belief that too many of us can over-analyse the situation, so maybe it time to sit back and learn how to flirt and have fun at the same time.

The 4 Pillars of Flirting

I believe there are 4 cornerstones, or pillars of flirting that make someone a good flirt.

These are Attitude, Awareness, Flexibility and Intention.

Imagine you are making a movie and you are the writer, the actor, the director and editor of this movie.

You get to choose the direction and you also get to choose the ending. You get to choose what you focus on and this in turn sets the scene for you movie.

Now, if you were watching a bad TV show, you would change the channel, and just like changing the channel we can change our movie to what we want. Makes sense right?

So aside from external circumstances beyond out control, we can have control over our own movie.

We can control the attitude, the lines of our internal dialogue, our flexibility in the way we react, our awareness in what we focus on and our intention by directing the movie.

The only thing is we cannot control the other actors, the people we come across. We cannot stop people from not liking us or wanting to talk to us…or can we?

Remember what we believe about others affects how we treat them, and in turn, how they respond to us.

Learning How to Flirt

The first step is to make sure you practice. It does not have to be with the cute guy or girl you have had your eye on this last year, but anyone beyond the ring of your closest family or friends would help. In fact it is easier to learn how to flirt when there is less at stake sometimes.

Learn how to flirt - what do we need to practice?

We can tell you from flirting workshops at 8 hours per day each month since 2003, if there was one area or flirting tip to practice for most people it is 'eye contact'.

'Eye contact' we hear you say - so what's the big deal?

Eye Body Language

Well first of all practising making eye contact with whomever you meet or even pass in the street is great for self confidence.

Put it another way - when you have felt less than confident - how much eye contact do you give? Probably not much.

Well why not put the cart before the horse and learn how to flirt with the basics, and start making eye contact and watch your confidence grow.

Secondly, it gives you that all important practice at maintaining eye contact while your knees start to shake or you feel queezy looking at that cute guy or girl - and doing this until you get used to it.

Now before you start walking around your neighbourhood eyeing every man, women and child like a social outcast, let us set the ground rules.

First, practice just walking past someone in the street - try smiling and making eye contact with them.

Now don't be discouraged if they don't smile back. For many people, others won't smile back straight away at the beginning but that's all part of our development here.

Overcoming Fear of Rejection

In fact its critical as we develop our new confidence - not based on others thoughts or reactions.

Just try and practice this at least a few times per day. If you do nothing else for this week, just keep making eye contact to build that confidence.

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If you are chatting with someone, just make sure you aren't looking at your feet but instead concentrating on the person's face. Look away once in a while so they don't think you are staring them down of course. OK we have made the point, so lets move on.

How to flirt successfully

The key to being a successful flirt lies in your ability to make other people feel good about themselves by showing that you like and are interested in them.

Try and re-read the above sentence.

When practising how to flirt, try this out on whoever you meet in day to life - make them feel good by showing genuine interest in them without having any real agenda.

You will go a long way doing this.



We all have that ability and sometimes it is just a case of making the effort, to give people your undivided attention.

Learning how to flirt can seem to take some effort, but therein lays the answer; its those who have taken the effort that do get the results.

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