Is he flirting with me?
Ever wondered to yourself - is he flirting with me? How can you tell the difference between open friendly flirting and flirting with intent? Picture yourself at a social function, you are feeling good about yourself and in the mood for some lighthearted fun. You meet that guy you have had your eye on, and he starts sending out all these friendly signals. You are thinking this will be fun. The only thing is you cannot work out if he is seriously flirting or not...
Is he flirting with me? Tell-tale signs that tell you he's interested Written by Katia Loisel-Furey and Paul Morris Segal co-authors of the blockbuster 2-sided book How to get the man you want / How to get the woman you want Have you ever wondered whether a guy was interested or just being friendly or been sure that a gorgeous guy wasn’t interested only to find out he’d been flirting? Guys don’t send as many flirting signals as women so if you think he’s hot, keep your eyes peeled and make sure you’re sending at least 3 to five positive signals his way. Let’s start with the basics. Want to know the signals most commonly used by men to indicate interest? He’ll gaze in your direction, smile, maintain eye contact for up to four seconds, give you a half smile, look away before having another peek around 30 seconds later. Doesn’t sound that hard to spot does it? But before you get too keen, remember to always look for a cluster of three to five signals and if he’s not pointing at you or looking in your direction chances it’s not you he’s flirting with. Now that you’ve got the basics let’s get started. Before he’s even registered that he’s attracted his body has started sending out micro-signals that say you’re hot. He’ll stand tall, become erect, give himself a non-surgical chest lift, pull his stomach in, and tense his muscles. It’s his body’s way of getting ready for an encounter, with you. Okay, so you’ve got your eye on a gorgeous guy, you think he’s keen but you’re still not quite sure. What other signals give him away? But that’s not all… Now, If you’re lucky enough to be standing close to him look out for these signals that tell you he’s keen: Here’s a hot tip. - The more aroused he is, the more sensitive his lips and genitals will become as they fill with blood, making them irresistible to touch. If you catch him touching his face or lips auto erotically, and want to turn up the heat, let your eyes wander from his eyes to his lips for three seconds before slowly looking back. You’re guaranteed to get his attention. … and that’s just for starters.<
Let us give you an idea of what we mean. Most guys in my experience are looking for a quick solution, a '10 point plan' you can follow and bam you get your desired result.
e.g "tell me how to get the girls".
Girls tend to ask us "is he flirting with me, how do I tell if he is really flirting or not, what did it mean when he...?".
Most girls relish the flirting process and understanding how he and she flirts with others, the different nuances, the teasing, the seduction and probably know a little more about flirting signals.
With this in mind it is not uncommon for guys to not be so involved in the flirting process. They are more likely to 'steer' a conversation, to get the desired result, rather than let the ballet of establishing rapport happen naturally.
This is where it can be difficult to understand - is he flirting or not?.
There are of course guys who are into the art of conversing, the give and take of flirting and enjoy the ebb and flow involved. Girls will usually know if he is flirting with them.
There are many however who simply are not natural flirts and not skilled in the area of communication. After all, you're a gorgeous girl and he's naturally nervous talking to you.
Don't get upset or frustrated by this - it's just understanding the male brain. Males can be very purpose driven and less involved with the process of being a flirt.
This is not to say they aren't excited when they flirt - indeed every bit as much as girls. He usually has less experience though and sometimes can be less skillful in the art of romantic flirting.
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