Is he flirting with me?
Ever wondered to yourself - is he flirting with me?Have you ever wondered whether a guy was interested or just being friendly or been sure that a gorgeous guy wasn’t interested only to find out he’d been flirting? The following extract was taken from the 2-sided book How to get the man you want / How to get the woman you want written by Katia Loisel-Furey and Paul Morris Segal. Guys don’t send as many flirting signals as women so if you think he’s hot, keep your eyes peeled and make sure you’re sending at least 3 to five positive signals his way.
Let’s start with the basics.
Want to know the signals most commonly used by men to indicate interest? He’ll gaze in your direction, smile, maintain eye contact for up to four seconds, give you a half smile, look away before having another peek around 30 seconds later.
Doesn’t sound that hard to spot does it?
But before you get too keen, remember to always look for a cluster of three to five signals and if he’s not pointing at you or looking in your direction chances it’s not you he’s flirting with.
Now that you’ve got the basics let’s get started.
Before he’s even registered that he’s attracted his body has started sending out micro-signals that say you’re hot. He’ll stand tall, become erect, give himself a non-surgical chest lift, pull his stomach in, and tense his muscles. It’s his body’s way of getting ready for an encounter, with you.
Okay, so you’ve got your eye on a gorgeous guy, you think he’s keen but you’re still not quite sure. What other signals give him away?
He might give you the repeated darting glanceHold your gazeGive you the eyebrow flashWink at youSmooth or mess up his hairTouch his faceGive you the head to toe look and Let you catch him checking out your bodyTake a visual journey of your face and bodyPlay with his mouth, lick his lips or put objects into his mouth
But that’s not all…
He might stroke his clothes, preen or play with his tie Button or unbutton his jacketPush his jacket backPlay with his socks and pull them up Spread his legs, giving you a crotch display Lean in towards youStand with his hands on his hips Stand in the cowpoke stance with his fingers pointing towards his crotchBreak away from the groupDraw attention to himself (and not necessarily in a good way)
Now, If you’re lucky enough to be standing close to him look out for these signals that tell you he’s keen:
He might move closer to youInvade your personal space with objectsMirror youReflect your facial featuresRaise his eyebrows slightly when talking or listening to youTilt his head when listening to youMove his head towards yoursDo the whisper and leanTouch youLend you his coat or jumper orGuide you with his arm around the small of your back
Here’s a hot tip. - The more aroused he is, the more sensitive his lips and genitals will become as they fill with blood, making them irresistible to touch. If you catch him touching his face or lips auto erotically, and want to turn up the heat, let your eyes wander from his eyes to his lips for three seconds before slowly looking back. You’re guaranteed to get his attention.
What if he won't flirt with me?
Some guys just aren't into the flirting thing straight away. However there is good news.
We believe every guy flirts given the right circumstance. Try a few of these little tips to answer the question - is he flirting with me?
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