Is he flirting with me?



Ever wondered to yourself - is he flirting with me? How can you tell the difference between open friendly flirting and flirting with intent?

Picture yourself at a social function, you are feeling good about yourself and in the mood for some lighthearted fun.

You meet that guy you have had your eye on, and he starts sending out all these friendly signals. You are thinking this will be fun. The only thing is you cannot work out if he is seriously flirting or not...

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Is he flirting with me?
Tell-tale signs that tell you he's interested

Written by Katia Loisel-Furey and Paul Morris Segal co-authors of the blockbuster 2-sided book How to get the man you want / How to get the woman you want


Have you ever wondered whether a guy was interested or just being friendly or been sure that a gorgeous guy wasn’t interested only to find out he’d been flirting?

Guys don’t send as many flirting signals as women so if you think he’s hot, keep your eyes peeled and make sure you’re sending at least 3 to five positive signals his way.

Let’s start with the basics.

Want to know the signals most commonly used by men to indicate interest? He’ll gaze in your direction, smile, maintain eye contact for up to four seconds, give you a half smile, look away before having another peek around 30 seconds later.

Doesn’t sound that hard to spot does it?

But before you get too keen, remember to always look for a cluster of three to five signals and if he’s not pointing at you or looking in your direction chances it’s not you he’s flirting with.

Now that you’ve got the basics let’s get started.

Before he’s even registered that he’s attracted his body has started sending out micro-signals that say you’re hot. He’ll stand tall, become erect, give himself a non-surgical chest lift, pull his stomach in, and tense his muscles. It’s his body’s way of getting ready for an encounter, with you.

Okay, so you’ve got your eye on a gorgeous guy, you think he’s keen but you’re still not quite sure. What other signals give him away?

  • He might give you the repeated darting glance
  • Hold your gaze
  • Give you the eyebrow flash
  • Wink at you
  • Smooth or mess up his hair
  • Touch his face
  • Give you the head to toe look and
  • Let you catch him checking out your body
  • Take a visual journey of your face and body
  • Play with his mouth, lick his lips or put objects into his mouth

    But that’s not all…

  • He might stroke his clothes, preen or play with his tie
  • Button or unbutton his jacket
  • Push his jacket back
  • Play with his socks and pull them up
  • Spread his legs, giving you a crotch display
  • Lean in towards you
  • Stand with his hands on his hips
  • Stand in the cowpoke stance with his fingers pointing towards his crotch
  • Break away from the group
  • Draw attention to himself (and not necessarily in a good way)

    Now, If you’re lucky enough to be standing close to him look out for these signals that tell you he’s keen:

  • He might move closer to you
  • Invade your personal space with objects
  • Mirror you
  • Reflect your facial features
  • Raise his eyebrows slightly when talking or listening to you
  • Tilt his head when listening to you
  • Move his head towards yours
  • Do the whisper and lean
  • Touch you
  • Lend you his coat or jumper or
  • Guide you with his arm around the small of your back

    Here’s a hot tip. - The more aroused he is, the more sensitive his lips and genitals will become as they fill with blood, making them irresistible to touch. If you catch him touching his face or lips auto erotically, and want to turn up the heat, let your eyes wander from his eyes to his lips for three seconds before slowly looking back. You’re guaranteed to get his attention.

    … and that’s just for starters.
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    Understanding how guys think

    Understanding how guys think will help you to decipher whether he is flirtig or just being friendly. Guys tend to think a lot less about flirting than girls do. For instance, our experience shows guys just do not discuss flirting as much as girls do.

    Let us give you an idea of what we mean. Most guys in my experience are looking for a quick solution, a '10 point plan' you can follow and bam you get your desired result.

    e.g "tell me how to get the girls".

    Girls tend to ask us "is he flirting with me, how do I tell if he is really flirting or not, what did it mean when he...?".

    Most girls relish the flirting process and understanding how he and she flirts with others, the different nuances, the teasing, the seduction and probably know a little more about flirting signals.

    With this in mind it is not uncommon for guys to not be so involved in the flirting process. They are more likely to 'steer' a conversation, to get the desired result, rather than let the ballet of establishing rapport happen naturally.

    This is where it can be difficult to understand - is he flirting or not?.

    There are of course guys who are into the art of conversing, the give and take of flirting and enjoy the ebb and flow involved. Girls will usually know if he is flirting with them.

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    There are many however who simply are not natural flirts and not skilled in the area of communication. After all, you're a gorgeous girl and he's naturally nervous talking to you.

    Don't get upset or frustrated by this - it's just understanding the male brain. Males can be very purpose driven and less involved with the process of being a flirt.

    This is not to say they aren't excited when they flirt - indeed every bit as much as girls. He usually has less experience though and sometimes can be less skillful in the art of romantic flirting.

    Here are some tell tale sign he is flirting with you:

    N.B Its important to note that we don't want to take any one of following in isolation. In the normal flow of conversation we are looking at 2 or 3 of the following to provide some strong clues:

  • Stiffening of body posture - a more rigid posture can be a tell tale sign he wants to look his best for you.

  • Leaning in during conversation - a great way to find out if he is interested is to be suggestive and whisper something like a secret - if he leans in or asks you to speak up its a good sign.

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  • Offers you a drink - good sign especially if it's only you he asks.

  • He will do anything to make you laugh - a lot of guys are more comfortable playing around or having fun. This is a great sign he is flirting with you. See how he reacts when you laugh as well. Guys like to see their girls happy and a potential partner is no exception.

  • Quick look away after eye contact - guys and girls both do this when they are interested.

  • Smile with eye contact - we know this straightforward one is what the girls really like, and it works like a charm!

    What if he won't flirt with me?

    Some guys just aren't into the flirting thing straight away. However there is good news.

    We believe every guy flirts given the right circumstance. Try a few of these little tips to answer the question - is he flirting with me?

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