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Is he flirting with me?Ever wondered to yourself - is he flirting with me? How can you tell the difference between open friendly flirting and flirting with intent? Picture yourself at a social function, you are feeling good about yourself and in the mood for some lighthearted fun. You meet that guy you have had your eye on, and he starts sending out all these friendly signals. You are thinking this will be fun. The only thing is you cannot work out if he is seriously flirting or not...
Is he flirting or just being friendly?how do you tell the difference i.e is he flirting or just being nice?Understanding how guys think is the first step in the process. They tend to think less about flirting than girls do. For instance, our experience shows guys just do not discuss flirting as much as girls do. Let us give you an idea of what we mean. Most guys in my experience are looking for a quick solution, a '10 point plan' you can follow and bam you get your desired result. e.g "tell me how to get the girls". Girls tend to ask us "is he flirting with me - how do I tell if he is really flirting or not?". Not so much for guys. Girls however generally love the process of flirting and understanding how he and she flirts with others, the different nuances, the teasing, the seduction and probably know a little more about flirting signals. With this in mind it is not uncommon for guys to not be so involved in the flirting process. They are more likely to 'steer' a conversation, to get the desired result, rather than let the ballet of establishing rapport happen naturally. This is where it can be difficult to understand - is he flirting or not?. There are of course guys who are into the art of conversing, the give and take of flirting and enjoy the ebb and flow involved. Girls will usually know if he is flirting with them. There are many however who simply are not natural flirts and are less concerned with conversation for conversation's sake. They get bored or frustrated by it. Don't get upset or frustrated by this - it's just understanding the male brain. Males can be very purpose driven and less involved with the process of being a flirt. This is not to say they aren't excited when they flirt - indeed every bit as much as girls. He usually has less experience though and sometimes can be less skillful in the art of romantic flirting. Here are some tell tale sign he is flirting with you:N.B Its important to note that we don't want to take any one of following in isolation. In the normal flow of conversation we are looking at 2 or 3 of the following to provide some strong clues:What if he won't flirt with me?Some guys just aren't into the flirting thing straight away. However there is good news.We believe every guy flirts given the right circumstance. Try a few of these little tips to answer the question - is he flirting with me? A community all for women.
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