Negative Body Language
Negative body language and detecting men and women
Suppose you are at a party and the person you are talking to shows negative body language, but verbally they seem interested. Something in your mind tells you however he or she is not interested. There is a lack of congruity, a lack of synergy in what they are saying and their negative body language. Our tip - listen to that inner voice! If there are inconsistent signs that the person is interested in you, you may be better off cutting your losses. Why? Well let's think about it - if you are in a downward spiral conversation with this person, you miss out on something better somewhere else plus it tends to drag down your own self confidence. Here are some of the signs of negative body language: Mismatching body language, vocal speed and tone - Keep an eye out for negative body language, if you move one way and they another, and do this continually, you probably have not gained their trust and just not in rapport. Can be a clear sign - for the time being anyway that things aren't going to happen.
Negative body language - overcoming fears of rejection
Turning their body away - If they do this more than once or its a clear reaction after you say or do something, its a clear sign of negative body language.Avoiding eye contact - Sometimes we can avoid eye contact with those we really like, so keep in mind they either like you or are just have a negative reaction. Don't try to fix it, but rather let them warm up when they are ready. Showing disinterest - If they give signs off showing disinterest, basically not giving you anything, it can mean one of two things - either they are an electric oven and slow to warm up - or they are just not that into you.Folded arms - This can be misconstrued, especially if they are cold or just comfortable folding arms. Check with you inner instinct on this one, sometimes you gut reaction can be the best guide.Crossing legs tightly - Especially for women if they cross over legs almost twice, its a clear sign they feel defensive. Best to tread lightly and move slowly if that's the case.Extended closing of the eyes - Assuming they aren't sleep, this can be a sign of shutting out the other person and shows little desire to establish rapport.Continually looking elsewhere - Can be a real give away they aren't interested. Don't be put off because their choice should not reflect how you feel about yourself. Who knows they may have had a bad day and not ready to connect with others just yet.No acknowledgement - Keep an eye out, but if after a while you get no acknowledgement from someone, they probably are choosing to do that for a reason. Don't worry about what the reason is, but build you ego by talking to someone who finds you interesting and shows positive body language. Note - please don't always take things too literally. Have you ever been with someone who originally snubbed you, only to become friendly with later on, where they suddenly open up to you? A lot of people habitually avoid eye contact, and look away initially - don't take this personally. It's probably more to do with them than you. Usually you will find genuine people may look away initially but invite you back with open body language later on. Look for clusters of negative body language signs before you make any quick judgements. We hope this helps.
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