What's he thinking about me?

What's he thinking about me?

Ok, first of all, I'm in 6th grade, but I'm pretty mature for my age, most people think I'm 14-16 if I don't tell them how old I am.

There's this guy I'll call Jack. He's liked me since the first week of school, he even said I was pretty cool, when all we'd pretty much said to each other was hi, and he'd like poke me and pretend to "taser" me and stuff and just random things to get my attention.

He's always trying to make me smile, but I hold back my laugh/smile because I consider my smile extremely ugly and I've found the boys who made me laugh the most in my life and made me feel the most comfortable/flirty around, have also been the boys who've hurt me the most, and I don't want him to hurt me...but I want him to think I feel comfortable around him...

On numerous occasions he's like, "Why do you hold back your laugh?????" and I always say "Idk..cuz =P" because I don't want him to know what's happened with other guys. One day I had the nerve to ask "Why do you care if I hold back my laugh or not? =)" and he just went all semi-stammery and he was like "uhhhhh i-idk..." and he went sorta quiet like he didn't know what to say, and turned around, since I purposely put him on the spot, lol.

He's also ALWAYS complimenting me, he knows Im extremely shy and self-concious so he always tries to get my ego up. One day I went to school with half cornbraids, half my hair loose and I had to keep it like that the whole week, because my mom was sick of my hair being in my face all the time and he said "It looks cool", along with everyone else in class. Just little things like that, but still, I'm happy because he actally takes the time to say something. He's also always helping me with stuff. One of the classes we have together is unified arts, so at the moment we're in tech ed, and me not knowing anything about wood shop, and him knowing alot, he's helped me alot and we've just gotten past sanding and I'm already messing up, so he just stands by to watch/help me if he's done and/or waiting for the machine (even though he could wait for another, quicker person to get off the machine, he still waits by me ^_^).

He also has these two bestfriends, who went to elementary school with him, I'll call them Vicki and Sarah. I moved sometime ago and now live on the same street as Vicki and Sarah. Jack and pretty much the rest of the school found out within the next 3 days. Jack has said all the time that I should hang out with him, Vicki, and Sarah after school one day. The one day he directly, literally asked me to hang out with them, instead of a general "Lets hang out sometime" I said I was busy, and he hasn't asked me since then..but I really was busy, but I had band lessons and I was sorta embarrassed so I didn't go into that much detail, but I think he took it as a form of rejection...=(

Today in gym class, we had to do something called the triple jump, and jumping hurdles. When I did my triple jump, I landed 21 feet, which was surprising since I normally did terrible in gym class, but we had always done the triple jump in elementary school and it was one of my favorite things. So, Jack measured how far I went, and called me a "beast", knowing that's how guys are all I said was "I'm not a beast! *laugh*" and he'd be like "Yea you are!". Then, after that, I was racing against him for the hurdle jumping, and I beat him both times, which caused more boys to call me a beast, but the cool thing was, he wasn't making a big deal about it, and neither was anyone else.On AIM, I told my friend Emma what had happened in gym, to get her take on it, and before I could say more then "guess what happened in gym today" she said "let me guess, jack called you 'the beast'? :P" and I said "wait. yeah. how'd you know???" and she said "He told me. during math. He was like:

"Where's Miranda?" (Jack)"Early dismisal" (Emma)"so the beast is gone?" (Jack)"who's the beast?" (Emma)"miranda" (Jack)"oh...okay then...o_O..." (Emma)

My friend Cathy said it was a good thing that he noticed I wasn't there, and then I told her that we sit in 4 person groups, and I sit diagonally from Jack, but she still said it was good, because he actally asked. That IS still a good thing...right?

What do you think about my status with Jack right now? We only have 21 more days of school left, and I really want to be more open and outgoing with him...I feel so bad because I'm not naturely outgoing with people I haven't known since kindergarten, or talked to online alot, unless I'm with a friend who I've known forever. I'm thinking of getting one of my friends over my house, so me, my friend, Vicki, Sarah, and Jack can all hang out at some point and I can be my outgoing, fun to be with self that I am with friends. I was really popular last year because of that =P.

He also feels comfortable around/trusts me. One unified arts class (Study Skills) Jack had an "innapropriate" picture of an F, which my teacher took for a different meaning then it did something about racing I think idk, I don't remember what it was but it had a woman with large...yeah...showing cleavage, but it was one of those cartoon ones, like Betty Boop. 40 minutes later, 5 minutes before the bell rings I ask to get my stuff for last period, since we always did if we had nothing to do at the end of that class, forgetting Jack was out in the hall talking with the math teacher (study skills is taught in her room) I see Jack crying while talking to the teacher with his voice serriously breaking while talking, I don't know what they were talking about, I didn't pay that much attention because I knew it was a private thing, but I think it was about his mom, because the teacher said "so this is really stressing you out isnt it..." and he's like "y-yeah.." and other stuff I didn't hear, and at the beginning of the year I overheard jack saying "I haven't seen my mother for 6 months, I think I can handle not seeing her" at the beginning of the year to some other people.

Because of that me seeing him cry incident, I heard him talking about me to his best friend, Devin on the last day of Study Skills, when we were havin a "party" (chips, soda, radio, able to listen to iPods, major talking time, 45 minutes) saying something along the lines of "She's not that bad, give her a chance, she saw me cry..." in an approving way..plus more before and after that. I dunno, but since then his friend Devin's been more friendly with me too.

I also remember at the beginning of the year, in gym, Jack's friend Sven (I'm running out of names...lol..) came up to me and was like"Whats your name?""Miranda...? You know my name!!""Mirandeek Jake wants to go out with yooooh""Um.......no."I already used to talk to Sven alot, I used to sit next to him in homeroom. Plus, Jack was going out with this girl Sarah, who I've mentioned in other paragraphs after this one. So, I knew he was joking. But, still, he probably told Jack I had said no. Sooo...idk if saying no was a good thing, because Sven said it without Jack knowing, or if it was a bad thing, since he told Jack no and he might've liked me.

I'm sorry for the incredible wall of text. My first intent was for it to be two paragraphs at most...but I kinda got wrapped up in the thought of Jack. =P He broke up with his girlfriend of a year (SARAH) back in April. He also said during health class to another guy, with me right infront of him like, 1 1/2 feet away "I hold on to my girlfriends for a long time. I don't look for a new one every week." and he knew I was listening too.

What do you think about all this? Does he like me or not, is he trying to become close friends...What's he thinking? Thanks in advance if you actally read this, but I won't blame you if you skim lol.

If he does like me...how will this affect my friendship with Vicki and Sarah? We've recently become really good friends with each other. Jack is Vicki's best friend, and Sarah was a long-term girlfriend and they're still friends. so...

Katia's answer

Miranda,

I know it can be hard to tell what a guy really thinks of you, but from what you've told me he likes you a lot!

From the sounds of things Jack's a really great, genuine guy whose gone out of his way to make you feel great, so maybe it's time to do the same for him.

The best way to get someone to open up to you is to open up to them first - You declined his offer to hang out because you had band practice without giving him a reason why. Now is your chance to make it up to him. Next time you see him say "Hey Jack, I've been meaning to say thanks for inviting me out the other day. I'm sorry if I didn't seem interested, I had band practice and I was a bit embarrassed. I thought you'd think it was daggy, but if you ever want to hang again I'd love to�.

He'll be so thrilled you didn't reject him because of his breath or personality he won't care that you had band practice, believe me!

Smile at him - I know what it's like to have crocked teeth and a smile you'd rather live without. I've had crocked teeth most of my life. But I'll let you in on a little secret, unless your missing your front two teeth, your teeth aren't as bad as you think they are.

I had crocked teeth until my mid twenties, I avoided smiling like the plague and was so relieved when I finally had bonding veneers applied, (I couldn't bare the thought of wearing braces at 26). Two years ago I had to have the bonding removed, with veneers no longer an option I had to have braces to straighten my teeth.

I was able to get Invisilgn braces (plastic containers which you can't see), but the down side was at age 33 I had to go back to having very crocked teeth. I can't tell you how many tears I cried as those veneers came off, I was petrified of going back to that shy, insecure, 16 year old couldn't smile.

But something very different happened. Instead of smiling with my lips pursed like a cats bum I decided to smile crocked teeth and all and no one blinked twice. If you're conscious about your teeth others will notice them, if you smile all they'll see is your radiant warm smile. So go on, smile at him - I dare you.

Don't worry about Vicky and Sarah, if they're your friends they'll be more than happy to help you two hook up (unless of course they secretly have a crush on him). So, rather than hiding the way you feel, say Jack's really cute, I think I'm really starting to like him and wait for their reaction.

Good luck Miranda!!

Take Care

Katia

Miss Flirt

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